Holding Each Other Up

It seems that in times when we are really uncomfortable, because there has been some tragedy, death-defying and/or fatal incident, the best we can do is to hold each other up. It is true that in life the one constant is change.

We may want to feel the regular comforts of everything being the same and yet there is opportunity in the complexity of life.

"The young become the old, mysteries do unfold" in their own time or in the time that is necessary for human beings to develop understanding. Wisdom is gained and there are opportunities for us to sit at the knee of the wise and learn as long as we are open and curious. We also get an opportunity to assess and discern what really is important to us as we journey together.  So, some habits may fall by the roadside and then again we may pick up something new.

So, when we have depended on the constant that "rain comes from the clouds, sun lights up the skies," we do not expect to see pigs fly. So when we do see something coming toward us that knocks us off our center, what do we do?

Rally the troops! my mind shouts.

As humans, we can go into fight or flight mode.

Personally, I get angry. I do rally the troops.  The adrenaline gets me ready to run, to act.

Maybe you have heard or read about this part of the human condition?  When we are really, really uncomfortable to the point that our central nervous system has taken over. . . Our thinking brain is hijacked.

But, if I take a breath, maybe more, I start to make a plan; I start to think about what is best to do at the moment. I get quiet. I might look very angry.

At church, we have friends who are very close; and we have a caring committee. We have organized a plan to do the work of holding each other up.  It's a proactive organized group.

I  keep cards and stamps on hand to mail things to folks. I carry them with me in my binder. Still, I send emails or text messages. In this digital age, I kind of feel that cards in the mail are a minimum that I can do. And still, I miss the mark. I believe in prayer, though. So, I do take a moment and think kind healing thoughts.  I suppose that the stronger the relationship you have with a person, the more likely you are to put yourself right there with the person or do as they ask...which sometimes may be to visit at specific times or wait before visiting.

We do find a way, though.  We find a way or many different ways to hold each other up. Because as that song goes "everything must change. . .  because that's the way of time. No one and nothing goes unchanged."


Everything must Change- George Benson

I'm Gonna Lift My Sister Up